This is the continuation of Part 1 of my blog “5 Questions international students get asked”.
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3. “What do you like or dislike about Canada?”
As a follow-up to the above question, they may want to know what you think of Canada, as a way of seeing their own country through someone else’s fresh point of view.
How to answer: Feel free to be honest since those asking the question are probably genuinely interested and curious in what you think. If you have a criticism in mind, you could start with, “I’ve noticed that […..], I’m curious to know [why it’s done that way] / [what people mean by it]?” Also, ask for their opinions in return to further engage in conversation.
4. “How do you say ___________ in [your native language]?”
Many people are enthralled by foreign languages – whether it be for the different sounds or the embedded cultural nuances. If you speak another language, you’re likely going to be asked to teach someone how to say something.
How to answer: Consider it as an opportunity to share a piece of your culture, especially if you have a favourite phrase or two you’d like to teach. If you get tired of answering this question over and over again, you could turn it around and ask if they know any other languages – and if they can teach you something.
5. “Do you have _______ in [your home country]?”
These questions sometimes reveal what preconceptions and/or stereotypes the questioner has in mind. As someone born and raised in South Korea, here are a few that I have been asked:
“Are you a math whiz?”
“Why are North Koreans and Kim Jong-Il / Kim Jong-Eun so weird?”
“Can you do the Gangnam Style dance?”
Although the person asking probably meant no harm, it’s easy to feel irritated by such essentializing questions. However, consider them opportunities to undo some of the stereotypes and to spread the things you love about your own culture.
How to answer: These questions are often difficult to answer and may upset you. There are no clear answers to such questions, so you could instead start a conversation by saying, “That’s interesting. Can you tell me more about why you find [said person, custom, or event] so [weird/upsetting/or any adjective used in original question]?” or “Why do you think I’m a [math whiz/ or said stereotype]?”
In conclusion, remember: these questions may be frustrating, but they are also everyday opportunities to engage with others and tear down artificial barriers poised in the way of a truly harmonious global society.